8th graders dating dating advice for christian men
Not only are you teaching them how to treat future girlfriends and eventually a spouse, but they are learning how to expect to be treated.My son’s girlfriend’s mother called me that night and said that her daughter told her that if they ever break up he will be a tough act for any other boy to follow because he is so kind to her.We will not allow her to have a boyfriend until she is 16.She thinks that we are mean and are trying to make her life miserable. Let them have their girlfriend or boyfriend over to the house while you are home. Get to know the other kid’s parents and what his/her home life is like. I have gone to the movies with my son’s girlfriend’s family, out to casual dinners, the amusement park.I never mentioned the flowers, but brought up the point that we do special things for special people in our lives–family and friends.Later that week we were grocery shopping again– I swear I live there at the grocery store– and when he saw the flowers he asked if he could buy a bouquet.In a few years they will be in high school and you will not be privy to much of the inner workings of their social lives.This is the perfect opportunity to teach them what being in a relationship with someone means. My 7th grade son and I were in the grocery store one day when he remarked that some purple flowers were his girlfriend’s favorite color.
We have told our daughter that we don’t want her to date.
I asked him if he thought he would like to buy them for her.
(They are a bunch, hardly a huge expenditure.) He looked at me like I had just suggested he dance naked in the checkout aisle. I don’t presume to understand the inner-workings of a middle school aged boy’s mind, so I dropped the subject.
I think that is the sort of thing we all hope for as parents, on both sides–to hear your child is kind or to hear that your child expect kindness.
I am curious about all the other parents of teenagers, soon-to-be-teens, survived-the-teen-years think?